Sometimes, Adult Children Have More Difficulty Adjusting to a Parent in Assisted Living
It seems like the perfect solution: assisted living. Perhaps it’s a mother or father who is showing signs of difficulty taking care of themselves at home. Maybe the adult children have witnessed concerns regarding safety, noticed how their parent doesn’t do much anymore, and have learned something about this type of living environment.
Often, though, it’s the aging senior who doesn’t want to consider this.
Adult children want what’s best for their aging parents, in most situations. When they sit down and talk about assisted living or some other situation, it’s usually done out of love. They sincerely want this parent to be safe, healthy, and happy.
A high quality assisted living community offers that, and more.
This type of facility can offer the opportunity for seniors to mingle, meet new friends, take part in various activities, get great entertainment, wonderful dining, and still be as independent as they want to be, within reason. Most people, when they choose assisted living, have difficulty keeping up with the regular housework, general maintenance of a home, mobility, and more.
For some adult children, though, this is also a difficult adjustment.
There are millions of people who remain close to where they grew up, close to where their mother or father or both parents still live. They have a strong sense of family and even a sense of obligation to their aging parents.
They want to be there for them, take care of them, and check in on them from time to time. Some of these adult children develop an identity around supporting this aging family member.
That’s okay, but it can make an adjustment to assisted living difficult for them.
If an elderly person is excited about the prospect of assisted living because they would no longer have to worry about their own house, wouldn’t have to constantly call their daughter or son to stop over and help them with things, it can be a wonderful relief. However, if that adult child has found some sense of responsibility, identity, or purpose in being there for that parent, this transition can be difficult for them.
The senior has everything he or she needs.
In this type of situation, the adult child should remember their mother or father still needs them emotionally. They still want visits. They still want to have those phone calls. But, the time spent with them will be much higher quality because that adult child will not need to worry about fixing something, getting something at the store, or helping their parent with some task that has been set aside for weeks on end.
For more information about Pipestone Place Assisted Living in San Antonio, TX or to take a tour, call today (210) 718-0211.
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