Sometimes, families can be so concerned and worried about an aging loved one, like a parent or grandparent, that they assume they know what’s best for them. The topic of assisted living may come up, but perhaps that elderly person is so against the idea that they become somewhat belligerent and hostile.
This can cause frustration. It can also create a tremendous amount of doubt and anxiety for everyone involved. In some cases, it can even reach the point where a person with legal power of attorney over that senior’s finances and other decisions steps in and assumes they know what’s best and will make the decision for him or her.
Is this possible?
It is certainly possible that an individual with power of attorney over an aging senior can force their hand and essentially give them no other choice than to move from their current residence.
But, the more important and pressing question is should they do that?
What is the current situation?
In many cases, family worry about safety for their aging loved ones. They see the limitations, the challenges, and the struggles this individual is facing daily, and perhaps they even offer assistance whenever they can, but they worry about a fall or other mishap.
If that’s the case, is this reason enough to force somebody to make a move like this? The reason we ask this question over and over is because it’s a vital one.
If somebody has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or another type of dementia, they would likely do better in a memory care assisted living facility than their current environment. In that type of scenario, the senior may not be lucid or cogent enough to make reasoned decisions for himself or herself. Therefore, family may truly know best.
But, if this senior is fully cogent and lucid but is dealing with diminished physical capacity, limited mobility, or other health issues, should family force their hand?
Weigh the cost/benefits of this type of decision.
Taking this decision to court and asking a judge to force a move is likely going to cause tension in the relationship. It could permanently damage that relationship a family member has with an aging parent or other loved one.
Instead of trying to force this senior’s situation, focus on a different approach. Even though he or she has been adamantly opposed to assisted living topics, talk about things they no longer do, but might still be able to enjoy with the right support and environment.
Eventually, the more seniors learn about the reality of assisted living, the more likely they become open and receptive to the topic. Sometimes, it just takes a little more patience.
For more information about senior housing in Alamo Heights, TX, contact Pipestone Place Assisted Living or to take a tour, call today (210) 718-0211.
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