This is actually a common question some family members may have when an aging parent, such as their mother, is showing signs of having difficulty around the house. They want to help, but perhaps they don’t live that close to this aging parent or have the time to devote to them, at least not nearly as much as he or she requires. This is often when the topic of assisted living may come up.
The first reaction may be that this senior won’t even listen.
That may very well be the case. Your elderly mother may have absolutely no interest in listening to you about assisted living or any other type of senior care option. She may be completely convinced she’s still fully capable of being independent, even though she might not be able to get to the store, can’t drive anymore, or has been having extreme difficulty just getting out of bed some mornings.
It’s not really your job to convince your mother that assisted living is the right thing for her at this point in her life. Your primary job should be to provide valuable, reliable information to her, be supportive, listen, and let her know she’s not alone.
But does that mean she is going to continue struggling?
Safety is one of the biggest concerns family and friends have for aging seniors, especially when they begin slowing down physically and having difficulty just walking up and down stairs, for example. You don’t have to sit idly by and hope for the best, though.
Learn as much as you can about assisted living, go on a tour, speak to an administrator, have specific questions that you believe your mother may have herself or objections you expect to hear from her, and become prepared to answer those objections or questions honestly and openly.
Also begin observing the various challenges your mother might be experiencing. For example, if she called you one evening because she was nervous, had lost her balance but avoided a fall, or seemed otherwise ‘out of sorts,’ make note of these. If she has expressed loneliness, doubt or fear being alone in that house, or other such concerns, also make note of those.
When you sit down and have an open, honest conversation with her about your concerns and observations, you will be able to point to her own concerns. Then you can transition the conversation to assisted living, pointing out why (specifically) it would be something she might want to consider at this point in her life.
She will convince herself based on factual information you give her, in her own time.
For more information about senior living in Terrell Hills, TX, contact Pipestone Place Assisted Living or to take a tour, call today (210) 718-0211.
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