Why Adult Children Avoid the Assisted Living Conversation with their Parents
There are plenty of reasons why you may not consider talking about assisted living with an elderly parent. One of those could involve fear. Maybe you have certain doubts or, just the simple thought of bringing up this topic instills feelings of guilt within you. These are all powerful motivators that keep people from discussing important topics, including about assisted living.
How can you get around this?
If you have an elderly parent who is struggling to take care of themselves at home, who is constantly calling you for help or trying to lean on neighbors, friends, or others in the area (if you don’t live close enough to them to help out directly), you may reach a point when you start thinking about assisted living.
I know they would be better off in a facility, you might think to yourself.
But, what if something goes wrong? What if they aren’t happy? What if just talking about it causes strife in your relationship with him or her? What if suddenly you find yourself on the outside of your family, being attacked and condemned by your own siblings, aunts and uncles, and even your own grown children?
“Why would you even think of such a thing?” They might all be asking you. This can cause incredible feelings of guilt. That elderly parent could assume you just want to pawn them off on someone else, that you no longer care, or that you simply don’t want the responsibility if something were to happen, such as a slip and fall.
No, you don’t want that responsibility.
You understand they’re getting older, their muscles aren’t as strong and their balance is not as it was in their younger years. You also recognize they spend the vast majority of their time alone. You may have a friend, coworker, or know someone else who had a family member in assisted living and all you heard about was how positive the experience was.
The more you learn about assisted living, especially about a quality facility, the more you begin to realize this is truly a wonderful option for seniors who want to be as independent as possible, but still have access to supportive staff members and the opportunity to surround themselves with other peers who share common interests.
Fear, doubt, and guilt may try to hit you when talking about this increasingly important topic, but the more you keep your eyes on the positive benefits it would offer, the easier it will be for you to stay strong and help this person see things they might not have seen on their own.
For more information about senior living in Hollywood Park, TX, contact Pipestone Place Assisted Living or to take a tour, call today (210) 718-0211.
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