Sometimes, trying to figure out how to talk about assisted living with a loved one is almost as challenging as convincing them that it would likely be the best thing for them. The reason for this is that when a person has lived most of their life taking care of themselves, and often others, they don’t want to admit that they can no longer tend to their own needs.
They feel that the concept of a personal care home for them means that they are incapable of managing their most basic necessities. However, when you know that your loved one is struggling to remain safe and healthy within his or her own home, then you also must know that you can’t keep delaying the inevitable conversation.
Talking about an assisted living facility or any other type of assisted care can be tough, but you need to start somewhere and it should always be at the beginning. If you feel that your loved one, whether it’s your mother or father, aunt or uncle, grandmother or grandfather is going to be resistant to the idea about needing to consider even the idea of assisted living, then you should start the conversation out in the most basic of terms. Start with talking about any direct incidents that might have caused you to begin considering this level of care as an option in the first place.
Did something happen to them when they were alone? Were they injured in an accident like a slip and fall? Did they forget to take their medication at the right time, or at all? There are usually plenty of things that you notice that might have caused you some concern for their well-being and maybe you didn’t bring it up at the time because you didn’t want to accept that your loved one was struggling to take care of himself or herself, or one thing didn’t make a pattern.
Whatever the case may be, those are the issues that you can bring up first. Talk to your loved one and get him or her to acknowledge and remember those incidents. Once you bring them to light, they may begin to see that they are putting themselves at risk. In that case, you can begin to talk about the various options that are available for their care. Assisted living is just one of those options and aside from an in home caregiver, it’s also the best.