When you first started talking to your mother about assisted living, you may have felt guilty. Perhaps you lived close enough to her that she expected you to take care of her. However, your busy schedule made it impossible for you to even consider that seriously.
Still, you continued to feel guilty.
Feeling guilt is a common emotion many family members deal with when a loved one is having trouble with their basic care, is going through their health issue and recovery, or may need some support and assistance at home. If a family member lives close enough that they could become a primary caregiver, they might feel this is their responsibility and if they don’t step up, it’s like they’re letting this parent or other loved one down.
You may have looked into assisted living for quite some time. You may have learned a lot about it. You may have even gone on a tour and met with an administrator to discuss all of the benefits this could offer your mother.
Still, when you finally decided to talk to her about it, you were reluctant because of that guilty feeling inside.
However, she was excited.
This might have surprised you. Your mother was actually excited about the prospect of moving. She had grown tired of being alone, not having friends or family visit with her often, and knew a few people through the years who had chosen assisted living. Everything she had heard was wonderful and she was excited about the prospect.
Together you learned about the various benefits.
You took your mother on a tour of the facility. This was the place that she wanted to go to. It was a little bit further away from you, and though you expected she would actually move closer, you understood why; she had a few friends already there.
You learned about the dining facility, the restaurant style facility that provides comfort to all of their seniors. You learned about the entertainment room with the TV, comfortable couches, and open atmosphere. You learned about the experienced staff members who assist when needed.
For a while, though, you may have thought your mother was just acting excited but was really disappointed. If you take the time to sit down and listen to what she has to say, talk about it openly and honestly, you will probably realize there are plenty of other reasons why she is excited about the prospect of moving into assisted living.
For more information about Pipestone Place Assisted Living in San Antonio, TX or to take a tour, call today (210) 718-0211.
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