You’ve been trying to get your elderly father to listen to you about assisted living, but nothing seems to be getting through. It can be utterly frustrating, especially if you are the one being called late at night because he can’t do something, is stuck trying to get out of bed to use the bathroom, or needs help doing any type of cleaning or general home repairs or maintenance.
Yes, it can be utterly frustrating to be in this situation, but you need to understand his perspective. He may have a lot of fears surrounding him right now. Some of those fears could have to do with his lack of mobility, loss of strength, age, mortality, and more.
Take some time to understand what he is feeling, thinking, and how he is responding to certain stimuli. You may be pushing assisted living too fast without taking into account the worries and concerns he has in daily life.
Learn as much as you can about assisted living.
You may need to make an appointment, go on a tour, and speak to an administrator or even some residents at a local assisted living facility to learn as much as you can about the benefits it offers seniors.
When you are empowered with this type of information, it becomes much easier for you to approach someone else, your father in this particular scenario. He may have questions, concerns, or misconceptions about assisted living and the more information you have on hand, the easier it will be for you to not just anticipate questions or frustrations he exhibits, but how to counter them and show him what’s possible.
Start out slow.
You may talk about something you noticed about him, some behavior or limitation that is causing you concern. Just mention it in passing. See how he responds.
You don’t have to come out and tell him how important it is that he considers this for his future; just starting out slow can get him thinking about it on his own.
One of the best ways to encourage your father to think about this more often is to ask questions. Find out what he feels, his perspectives, and more. The more you know about how he’s thinking and viewing things, the easier it’s going to be for you to tailor the conversation in a way that helps him realize assisted living can truly be beneficial.
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